Melissa's Story: Why "Becoming" Is More Powerful Than a Goal
Meet Melissa.
Two months ago, she wasn’t an exerciser, didn't have great eating habits, had some pain issues, and most days she's overcommitted....she's like most people.
Adding a weekly trip to TrainSmarter could have felt impossible. But Melissa made the leap.
Despite all she juggles, she doesn't miss her workouts and does her daily mobility work. She's on our ELEVATE program, reading her lessons and doing those daily assignments.
Melissa > inertia
If we don’t change direction soon, we’ll end up where we’re going. —Irwin Corey
Inertia is powerful.
It’s like a black hole that pulls us deeper and keeps us from doing what we want to do, whether that's eating healthier, sleeping more/going to bed earlier, finishing that project we swore we'd finish,.......
Without consciously take a step toward our goals, we’ll continue in the direction we’re going.
Or as I'm fond of saying, "If you keep doing what you've been doing, you'll keep getting what you've been getting."
That's great if we’re on a path we love.
What if you're not headed in the right direction?
Sometimes it’s as simple as asking a few questions:
Where do you want to go?
What is that quiet voice inside telling you?
What one step can you take today to move in that direction?
If you’re stuck, ask this first: What’s keeping me from moving in that direction?
Just getting honest with ourselves about what’s in the way is a game-changer.
A case of missing identity....
Focusing on identity—on who we are becoming—is more powerful than chasing a checklist of goals. Changes don’t stick until they become part of who we are.
James Clear puts it this way:
"If you genuinely care about the goal, you’ll focus on the system.
The goal isn’t to read a book, it’s to become a reader.
The goal isn’t to run a marathon, it’s to become a runner.
The goal isn’t to learn an instrument, it’s to become a musician."
Melissa is succeeding because she’s not just checking off workouts. She’s becoming someone who prioritizes her health, even when life is busy.
Many clients who've left TrainSmarter couldn't see themselves as strong, fit, someone who eats intentionally, or who prioritizes their health above all.
Messy doesn’t mean failing
"You can't wait for life to not be hard anymore before you decide to be happy.
A chef burns a sauce. A musician misses a note. An entrepreneur launches a product that falls flat. A parent loses their patience. A personal trying to get healthy may skip a workout, break their diet, or press snooze one too many mornings.
"The instinct is to see those moments as proof that we're failing. What if the real proof of greatness isn't in avoiding mistakes, but in recovering from them?"--Adam Bornstein
That's the key to Melissa's success. She keeps moving forward when life gets in her way.
As Martha Beck writes:
"I see life as a cosmic gymnasium where we have come to be broken and healed, broken and healed, for the joy of the process and because we have decided to become strong."
Melissa isn't superhuman. She didn't wait for momentum--she created it.
👉 If you’re ready to take that first step, let’s talk about the path that’s right for you.
Sometimes all it takes is a little support and a nudge in the right direction.
